What does anal sex feel like when you're receiving?

What does anal sex feel like when you're receiving?

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Nov 11, 2007 - 21 24

Weird question, I know, but I've never been on that end of it and I need to know for a sex scene I'm writing from the receiver's perspective ^^

If anyone can help, that would be lovely, thank you.


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Nov 12, 2007 - 05 12

It stretchs you the same as other types of penetration. If you're aroused it can feel amazing because there are so many nerves in the bottom. Always use lubricant because the anal fisures are not pleasant and unlike a vagina there is no natural lubrication.

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Nov 12, 2007 - 08 54

The thing I noticed most is that you really feel the head. It's almost like a hard...knot (for lack of a better, sexier word). The feeling often goes up right through my spine.

If you have any anal discomfort, though, it can be the worst feeling in the world.

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Nov 12, 2007 - 09 27

There is an infinite difference between "well lubricated" and "unlubricated".

In the latter, you probably won't get significant penetration, you probably will get significant pain and bleeding, and you definitely deserve both for being such a fool as to not lube up.

In the former, penetration is easy, though should still be taken slowly until you've loosened up, and at least for a guy, feels awesome. People talk focus on the prostate a lot, but actually I get a huge amount of pleasure from the feel of stuff going through the sphincter and the tight rings of muscle closest to it.

My recommendation would be to try a couple of toys on yourself to at least get the general idea. Clean them well before and after. Use at least ten times more lube than you need. "Slippery" is insufficient, aim for "dripping", and get the lube well inside as well as just outside and on the toys. Take it slow, give yourself time to ease open.

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Nov 12, 2007 - 11 48

Speaking as a girl... It nearly aways hurts when it first goes in, after that it either 1) continues to hurt and feels like you are being stabbed with a fiery stick; 2) is intensely pleasurable, because the walls of the anus are being stimulated while at the same time there is pressure on your g-spot through the walls of the vagina.

If you put *something* in the vagina as well at the same time, hmmmm heavenly... *Olympias floats off to her dreamy place*


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Nov 13, 2007 - 07 44

If it hurts when it goes in, then your partner hasn't prepared you well. Start with something small (such as a nice warm finger!) and enjoy the feeling as it slips inside. Your muscles will relax in a few moments and then you'll be ready for the real thing. It shouldn't ever hurt (unless you're into that sort of thing).

As for how it feels, yes someone mentioned that you really notice the change in diameter as the head moves inside. There's an intense feeling of pressure as the head presses against you, which builds up a feeling of anticipation. And then there's a release of pure pleasure as the head slips through. You feel the length of the shaft sliding in with every nerve you can imagine. The feelings go through my whole body.

(If you can't tell, I really enjoy it!)

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Nov 13, 2007 - 12 52

I'm told it feels different for men, but I still find that it feels pretty good--but only with ridiculous amounts of lubricant (as others have stated). In some ways it feels similar to vaginal penetration, in others completely different. I think it feels more intense in some ways, but it isn't the same quality of sensation as vaginal penetration is. I have to be in the right mood for it, as well. I like it best combined with clitoral stimulation of some sort.


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Nov 13, 2007 - 18 17

I'm a guy, I'm not sure who else is a guy....

I've never had it when it was painless. At the best, it hurts, but it's a good hurt, like when you get a really hard backrub/massage.

The pleasure is very strange. It's kind of... for lack of a better word, awe inspiring? to have something sliding in and out of you back there. For a man, the prostate stimulation is a little odd too, it's a very gut-feeling kind of sexual pleasure. Definitely not at all the same as penile stimulation.

I've heard that your colon will emit mucus, which will actually lubricate the act to some extent, but you have to get started with something. It really will emit mucus. To get disgusting, if you've ever enemaed yourself before having anal sex, you'll know what I'm talking about.

In short, it's uncomfortable, but when you really get into it, it's the good kind of uncomfortable. It's all about the situation. When you really, really, really want it...


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Nov 13, 2007 - 22 34

If we're getting graphic and personal anyway... well, I've never had anal sex (I'm female and feel I have a perfectly good vagina, thank you very much), but I once had to have an enema for a CT Scan (of an ovarian cyst, which was removed and was benign, so no one need worry about me). It did not hurt but it was rather unpleasant, and to me it felt a lot like having a bowel movement, except I wasn't. I assume that is NOT what anal sex is supposed to feel like? Because that's definitely not what anyone here is describing.


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Nov 14, 2007 - 04 52

There is a woman on another site who wrote a piece about her fantasy of being with another woman, who uses anal beads on her.....it's described as inserting the beads into the woman's ass then pulling them out slowly, giving loads of supposed pleasure...

Does anyone know about this and like to comment?

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Nov 14, 2007 - 08 26

dang, well I'd been warned off from anal by people saying it can never be fun for women. Basically the idea it's only fun for men because of their prostate. But now I'm starting to wonder, and after reading all these people's opinion on here it makes me want to give it a shot. Maybe it's just still so much a taboo that few know how to do it really right? Either way, what I'm reading here makes more sense and sounds way more authentic then the people who said it "can't/shouldn't be done." *adds this thread to personal notes on the subject* Thanks =)

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Nov 14, 2007 - 09 06

Honestly, I do enjoy it. It's an entirely different feeling than vaginal penetration, I find. There's a lot more pressure just before actual penetration, and if you're relaxed enough, it feels amazing when he gets through the second sphincter. It's pretty intense, no matter what, and the increased tightness back there makes it just that much better.

Get a vibrator in front while going, and it is completely amazing, in that whole-body-shuddering kind of way.

Turd Fergenson

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Nov 14, 2007 - 10 07

wow i totally didn't know anal sex was an epidemic. but i would wonder if people would get discoloration from that?

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Nov 14, 2007 - 11 37

Turd Fergenson wrote:
wow i totally didn't know anal sex was an epidemic. but i would wonder if people would get discoloration from that?

I don't see why, but then I've never heard of discoloration from any other kind of sex (oral, vaginal, anal, etc). So yeah, kinda confused by what you meant. =)

k.r.johnsonGlowing Halo
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Nov 16, 2007 - 00 17

I'm male. I had a boyfriend once, a very cute Asian in his mid 20s. We did this together several times. For me it's still the ultimate act of love. I was the receptive partner. I could write a lot about the mechanics of receiving anal, but what really stays with me all these years later is the feeling I had as my boyfriend reached his climax that for that short time the only thing that mattered to him was the position of my body, the attitude I lay in, any movements I made would affect his pleasure.


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Nov 17, 2007 - 23 20

Thank you all so much, your input definitely helped a ton with my scene ^^ Not to mention gave me some nice tips for when my boyfriend and I do this xD

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